Know Yourself, and Society Grows Kinder

Introduction: Why Do People Attack Others—and How Can We Create a Kinder World?

With the rise of the internet and social media, people can express their opinions more freely than ever before.
But alongside this freedom, slander and baseless attacks have become part of daily life—leaving many wounded, and in some tragic cases, driven to end their lives.

Insights from psychology and sociology suggest that persistent aggression often stems from a sense of self-deficiency—a state of dissatisfaction and loss of confidence in one’s own life.
In other words, people usually attack not because they genuinely care about others, but because they have lost sight of themselves, and their aggression is the outward reflection of that inner void.

To break this cycle, systems and regulations are certainly important.
But equally vital is that each of us develops the ability to understand ourselves.

Self-analysis is the foundation of that process.
Knowing yourself reduces the urge to attack, creates space in the heart, and makes it easier to choose kinder actions.

This article explores the power of self-analysis, and why it is indispensable in modern society.
It envisions a world with fewer aggressors and bullies, more people who carry confidence, fewer victims of fraud or addiction, and more individuals who can walk their path freely—unbound by rigid norms.

A kinder world will not be built by laws and regulations alone.
It begins with an inner shift in each person.
And at the very starting point of that shift lies self-analysis.

Chapter 1: How Self-Analysis Reduces Aggression

In today’s society, slander and malicious attacks are anything but rare. The anonymity of social media is often blamed for fueling this trend, but decades of research and observation reveal something deeper: aggression often grows out of dissatisfaction and inferiority directed at oneself.

When people feel unhappy with their own lives, they are more likely to channel that frustration into attacks on others. Such aggression can create a fleeting sense of superiority, but it never solves the real issue. Instead, it deepens emptiness and self-loathing—triggering yet another cycle of attack.

This is where self-analysis makes a difference.
By asking questions like “Why am I irritated?” or “What situations make me want to lash out at others?”, we begin to understand the roots of our impulses.
Psychology has long shown that simply giving a name to an emotion makes it easier to regulate behavior.

Of course, self-analysis will not erase every act of aggression.
But people who deepen their self-understanding feel less need to attack others. As their numbers grow, the overall level of hostility in society begins to soften.

Regulations and systems can suppress destructive behavior, but there is a form of kindness that only emerges when people themselves change from within.
Self-analysis is one of the most effective ways to spark that inner transformation.

Chapter 2: Regaining Confidence Through Self-Analysis

One of the most common struggles people share is this:
“I can’t feel confident in myself.”

We compare our education, careers, looks, and abilities to others and end up drowning in inferiority—convinced that “I’m worthless.”
This self-denial plants resignation even before we attempt anything, narrowing the possibilities of life.

But confidence is not something we are born with.
It is something that grows slowly—through the process of understanding and accepting ourselves.

When we recognize our strengths, we can affirm: “This is my value.”
When we acknowledge our weaknesses, we can find ways to compensate, or hand them off to others when needed.
In this way, self-analysis transforms vague self-denial into clear understanding, creating the foundation for positive action.

Take, for example, someone who admits, “I’m not good at public speaking.”
That awareness opens two strategies: practice until you improve, or lean into other talents—like writing or creating materials.
Admitting a weakness is not defeat. It’s the first step in choosing the right strategy.

On the other hand, when people simply feel, “I’m no good, though I don’t know why,” they have no strategy at all. Confidence slips further away.

Psychology also shows that those who can articulate their actions and emotions are more likely to feel secure. This sense of clarity is what forms the foundation of self-esteem.
Of course, self-analysis alone will not instantly overflow your life with confidence.
But knowing and accepting yourself is without question the first step to regaining it.

And here is the ripple effect: people who gain confidence feel less need to tear others down.
Confidence is not won by defeating others. It is something quietly accumulated within.
As more individuals discover that truth, the amount of aggression and harsh criticism in society decreases—making space for more constructive connections.

Chapter 3: Self-Analysis as the Foundation of Communication

In modern society, the importance of “communication skills” is repeated everywhere.
At school and in the workplace, those who can build smooth relationships are often valued highly.
And rightly so—understanding and cooperating with others is essential to living well.

But true communication is not built solely on the external skill of “how to talk to others.”
At its core lies a prior question: Do you understand who you are?

If you don’t know your own values or emotional tendencies, then even the best conversation techniques can backfire—fueling anxiety and tension instead of easing them.

Take, for example, someone who struggles with speaking in front of others. If they pressure themselves with “I must speak up,” their tension may rise, and a single failure can steal even more confidence.
But with self-analysis—by asking “Why do I get nervous when I speak?” and “What form of expression suits me best?”—they can find strategies that fit their nature and reduce the strain.

Psychology supports this: people who understand their own emotions and thoughts are more capable of accepting the perspectives of others.
Why? Because self-understanding widens the space for other-understanding.

In this sense, self-analysis is the foundation of communication.
It should be cultivated before layering on forced techniques or surface-level skills.

Those who know themselves can say: “This is the kind of person I am, and this is the way I should connect.”
As a result, they face others without strain, in their natural state.

Communication is not only about facing others.
It begins with the courage and clarity to face yourself.

Chapter 4: Protecting Yourself From Fraud and Addiction Through Self-Analysis

Modern society is full of temptations and traps.
From predatory scams and pyramid schemes to services designed to exploit dependency, there is no shortage of systems that prey on human fear and desire.

The endless number of victims are not “weak.”
They are simply people who, not fully understanding their inner world, become vulnerable to persuasive words crafted to manipulate them.

For example, when someone doesn’t know “what they truly want,” they are more easily swayed by sweet promises:
“This alone will make you happy.”
“You are special, chosen.”
“Anyone can get rich effortlessly.”

These phrases sound like they fill the emptiness inside. But if you make a decision—signing a contract, making an investment—without the clarity to pause and reflect, the cost can be enormous.

Self-analysis provides a way to confront this inner emptiness.
When you can put your desires and anxieties into words, you create space to ask:
“Do I really need this?”
That pause alone reduces the risk of being drawn into fraud or dependency.

Furthermore, when self-analysis helps you identify “what I want to do” and “where I want to go,” you are far less likely to be swept away by shallow success stories or by the hunger for external validation.
People with a clear axis choose to pursue their own dreams, rather than living inside dreams prepared by others.

Of course, self-analysis cannot eliminate all harm.
But as more people come to understand themselves, fewer will be deceived by hollow promises. And in turn, the perpetrators will find society less fertile for their schemes.

Self-analysis, then, is more than a personal safeguard.
It is a shield for the individual—and a force that makes society as a whole healthier.

Chapter 5: Living Beyond Conventional Wisdom Through Self-Analysis

From childhood, we are repeatedly taught the same social “truths”:
“You must go to high school and university.”
“Getting a stable job is the right path.”

These rails offer reassurance to many, but they also force countless people into lives that don’t fit them.

In reality, society is full of individuals who have thrived precisely because they stepped away from those rails. Artists, entrepreneurs, and skilled specialists often discovered their talent by refusing to be confined by traditional routes.
Yet not everyone can immediately question common sense. To discover the path that truly fits, you must first understand your own values and desires.

This is where self-analysis begins.
If you can recognize truths like “I prefer challenge over stability” or “I work best when I focus alone,” then you gain the power to choose without being swept away by society’s voice.
Conversely, if you follow convention without sufficient self-understanding, you may later be haunted by the question:
“What am I living for?”

Of course, this does not mean rejecting every social norm.
For many people, existing paths work well, and choosing them can be a meaningful decision.
What matters most is not which path you choose, but whether it is a path you chose with self-understanding.

When self-analysis clarifies the direction you should walk, you stop following tracks laid by others and begin walking your own.
The more people who choose lives true to themselves, free from unnecessary constraints, the more diversity and vitality society will gain.

Chapter 6: How Self-Analysis Can Transform Society

As we have seen, self-analysis brings deep change to the individual. But when multiplied across many lives, those changes ripple outward—eventually reshaping society itself.

First, when self-analysis reduces aggressive behavior, the overall volume of slander, bullying, and verbal abuse declines. As a result, more people feel safe to express themselves, to share ideas, and to take on challenges. A society where hostile words fade into the background is one where far more potential can emerge.

Next, as more people gain confidence, they become less inclined to tear others down and more open to differences. With higher self-efficacy comes a stronger inner motivation born of “I can do this.” Competition for comparison’s sake loses its grip, replaced by the drive to nurture one’s own individuality. This mindset forms the foundation for mutual respect—and makes genuine cooperation more natural.

Furthermore, when more individuals clearly understand what they want, fewer fall victim to fraud or exploitation. Calm, self-aware judgment creates an environment where predatory actors struggle to thrive. This extends what Chapter 4 described as “protecting the individual” into a broader outcome: protecting society itself.

And as more people walk life-paths aligned with who they truly are, social diversity flourishes. Instead of everyone chasing the same narrow routes, individuals make choices based on their own values. The result is a society energized by creativity and vitality.

The self-analysis I propose was designed specifically to support this social shift. It is not a simple multiple-choice test. It is a process where you express your own thoughts and feelings in writing. That act of putting words on the page sparks insight, and from those words emerges a personal “User Manual.” This becomes both a concrete tool for self-understanding and a shared language for connecting with others.

Through this experience, people begin to recognize the real value of knowing themselves. And as that recognition spreads, the transformation will only deepen.

What matters most is this: each person comes to understand themselves, and then shares that value with those around them. That accumulation, multiplied across millions, becomes a great current of change—one that makes society kinder as a whole.

This is why the spread of self-analysis cannot remain the work of specialists or educators alone. It must become a theme embraced by society itself.

Epilogue: Toward a World Just a Little Kinder Than Today

At first glance, self-analysis may seem like a quiet, even unremarkable act.
Looking back on your feelings, putting your thoughts into words—it lacks glamour.
And yet, it holds the undeniable power to change both people and society.

If even a few aggressors or chronic critics fade away, more people will feel safe to take risks and try.
If more individuals grow in confidence, relationships will shift from stepping on others to moving forward together.
If fewer fall prey to fraud or dependency, perpetrators will lose their footing.
And if more people understand the path that suits them, society will be enriched with diverse, resilient ways of living—no longer bound by narrow conventions.

The self-analysis offered through my site asks you to answer in writing.
Through that process, you uncover desires and feelings you may never have noticed.
The act of putting them into words sparks awareness, and the “User Manual” generated from those words becomes a concrete tool—deepening not only self-understanding but also empathy and connection with others.

This is not just another diagnostic test.
It is a practice to reclaim ease of living—and a small but real step toward a kinder society.

A kinder world is not some distant ideal.
It begins inside each of us, then grows into the currents that shape society itself.

So I ask you: will you join me in widening this current?